What happens when it's you who chooses to end the marriage because you realize it’s not going anywhere?
You are a woman of the day, financially independent, in your mid-30s. All that you were looking for in the marriage was companionship and a legal path to motherhood. But this man who played a perfect boyfriend - wooing you with his wealth of education, deep pocket and illustrious family background - starts getting abusive (even resorting to physical violence) right from your honeymoon days.
What are you expected to do? Grit your teeth and bear? Yes, you have had a failed marriage in your early 20s; you married your high school sweetheart ignoring your parents' experienced advice. You hadn't realised the social and cultural differences would make it too difficult to bridge the two families. But this time you made sure they were on a par. This time you had put your head before your heart. So what went wrong?
Ah well, that's another thought saved for another day. The bottomline is, the marriage wasn't working out. So you chose to walk out of it.
PS: Should the society brand you a woman difficult to please? Are you too set in your ways and not suited for a marriage whose basis is compromise and adjustment? Should so-called married women see you as a threat because you are still attractive and available?
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